“And the Lord God said “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a suitable helper comparable to him” Genesis 2:18 NKJV
Husbands sometimes feel they are being spoken down to, as if they were children or less intelligent, by an unyielding aggressive wife.
While it is true that the wife must respond to her husband differently, let us first deal with the husband’s role -passivity.
At that very moment, you become that suitable helper who is comparable to him. You are given all of the tools necessary to support him, to encourage him and to inspire him.
As wives, our role far extends beyond a mere helper where we are tasked with keeping our homes clean, making sure bills are paid, laundry and meals are done. Genesis 2:18 was not set up to list out our domestic roles as wives. This scripture was empowering us to embrace every area of the role we play in the lives of our husbands, in advocating for him, aiding in his advancement as he fulfills God’s ordained purpose for his life -your life, and family.
God, when He made Adam, said it was not good for man to be alone. There is something remarkable about that statement. When I think about solitary confinement and how it at times will drive an individual literally mad, that thought helps put the statement "it is not good that man should be alone" into perspective.
When he struggles and falls off track – we struggle and are also off track. Proverbs 14:1 says “A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish woman tears her house down with her own hands.” When we understand precisely what our roles are in our marriages, we respond from a place of understanding. A place that offers sound reason and wisdom, contributing to God’s plan for your marriage and family.
If our role is a suitable helper comparable to our husbands then when he falls short we aren’t to fault find, becoming quarrelsome and contentious, or even scolding or nagging. That is the role of a foolish woman who seeks to tear down her home with her own hands. Let us be wise and build up instead. We are anointed to uplift, to offer creative ideas and deep insight.
As a wife, you demonstrate great strength when you walk in your God-ordained role as a suitable counterpart. As a suitable counterpart for him, that means you are the most fitting, and no one else. So, embrace, celebrate and experience the freedom and reward that exists in being your husband's helpmeet.
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When our husbands are off track, as a helpmeet, we know how to listen to the Holy Spirit who may have us remain silent or encourage us to speak from a place of love and support – without attacking or emasculating because we understand when he wins we win.