I Peter 5:7 – Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
What does it mean to cast your cares upon God? What does “give it to God” look like? When we are faced with the heart wrenching challenge of an unchanged spouse, it can be difficult to not focus solely on that spouse’s action or lack thereof. Perhaps your wife is contentious or maybe your husband speaks harshly, or
even worse. In these situations, we often arrive to the conclusion that our spouse is the clear outlier – they are the problem and not you!
Hurts belong to God
The reality is that while there may be truth in your spouse’s struggle- as we each must walk out our own soul salvation – we have a responsibility to give our hurts, disappointments, frustrations, and especially our resentments completely to God.
To give our problems to God requires that we take ourselves out of the way and yield to Him all control. This is an action that is impossible without God’s help, because as soon as we utter the words we look to see change in our spouse. We can’t micro-manage God or check-in on his progress based on our
preconceived notions of how He will take care of our problem.
Isaiah 55:9 states, "For as heaven is higher than earth, so My ways are higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts." God always has a better perspective than our own as we are limited with our natural abilities. Casting our cares on God is supernatural! We must take our limited understanding out of the matter as our hurt feelings may cause us to assume the role of the Holy Spirit to our spouse.
Giving it to God means continuing to do what you are called to do as a loving husband or wife. It means not being distracted away from what your God-given role in the marriage is by attempting to control, fix, or change your spouse -that is the work and job of the Holy Spirit.
Everyone has their job, let God do his. When you surrender to God what is his, you honor him by remaining obedient to the role God has charged you with. It is also a declaration of your trust in God’s sovereignty that He will give us all we need to serve Him in our marriage, venturing through and through as a covenant keeper.
Galatians 6:9 “Do not grow weary in well-doing”
Forgiving an individual who has hurt you grants them the freedom to give new meaning and definition to their actions; it frees them from the past. When you stop the ‘re-membering’ process you no longer respond from a place of hurt and disappointment, you respond from a place of hope and optimism.