What does your marriage say about you? Are you trustworthy, honest, loving, patient, understanding, and do you display the fruit of the spirit?
Husbands sometimes feel they are being spoken down to, as if they were children or less intelligent, by an unyielding aggressive wife.
While it is true that the wife must respond to her husband differently, let us first deal with the husband’s role -passivity.
We each, as husbands and wives, have to live out our daily interactions with the external world by ourselves. Scripture makes it clear that there is a call to personal responsibility for each of us to strive towards a Christ-like life (Philippians 2:12; Romans 14:12). The roles and responsibilities we have in this life (parent, child, friend, provider, companion, employer, employee, neighbor, etc.) all require us to interact differently according to our varying roles. As a Christian, despite our many independent roles, there is no role where we are not ambassadors for Christ. It is in this thinking where Christ is incorporated into every area of our lives -impacting all those we interact with.
Your union with Christ is the same unity-ambassadorship that should exist with your spouse. The making of a one-flesh union not only demonstrates marital oneness but also symbolizes the oneness Christ has provided believers through his resurrection. This is why when you honor your marriage you honor Christ. Regardless of the role you are in, or interaction you are engaged in, you will look for ways to show allegiance to your spouse and promote the unity you have with them.
As a husband, when others look at the relationship you have with your wife what do they see? Do they see a sacrificial servant who would give anything to love and protect his wife and family? Do others see a husband who is sound in his judgment, slow to anger, and committed to leading his family?
As a wife, when others look at the relationship you have with your husband what do they see? Do they see a yielding supporter who nurtures and encourages her husband and family? Do others see a wife who is virtuous, wise with her words, and committed to being a resourceful benefit to her family?
When the spirit of compromise enters a marriage, unity is severed, and you become separated from the very institution God designed for your benefit -divide and conquer. Compromise enters when the pride of life, the lust of the eyes, or lust of the flesh is allowed to grow in your heart. These temptations have been offered to many who have come before us -but their declaration was to follow the Lord.
Joshua made his uncompromising declaration that serving the Lord was not evil (Joshua 24:15). David made his uncompromising declaration that he will meditate on God (Psalm 119:15). Paul made his uncompromising declaration to only trust in the power of God (1 Corinthians 2:2). Our Lord Jesus made his uncompromising declaration to follow only God’s will (Luke 22:42), and many more saints have made their faithful stance not willing to give into the spirit of compromise (Hebrews 12:1).
The life of a Christian should inspire fellow believers to continue pressing toward the call of Christ, showing ourselves as an example to those who believe (1 Timothy 4:12). The life of a married couple should likewise encourage others that a lifestyle of sacrifice and submission to God is fruitful and rewarding. Does your personal life demonstrate this? Is your marriage an example of the relationship Christ has with his church. With the help of the Holy Spirit, your marriage can be an inspiration and encouragement to all those who are watching.
Husbands often desire to have a wife who is more yielding then one who seeks to seize power and authority. Wives often desire the freedom to be whom they choose to be without the criticism from their husbands.
At the outset of marriage counseling, some couples often ask how effective will marriage counseling be, and will it be able to fix or save their marriage. The answer often depends on an array of factors, but, always is influenced by the couple’s perspective.